People see relationships as fairytales in which everything should be perfect and there should be only positive emotions and great feelings forever.
When people unite together they think that this state in a relationship will be present every moment and when difficulties appear they start to suffer.
What they don’t understand is that if God decided to put 2 people to spend time together or build a permanent connection, this means that he is preparing both souls for deep experiences that can help them to develop faster in this lifetime.
This is the purpose behind that connection.
When everything is going well in a relationship and external conditions are favorable (for example: economical situation is stable, health is good, family relationship is harmonious), they say that they love each other, but when external conditions change and start to be more difficult, the relationship starts to tremble and they stop caring for each other, they stop thinking about the feelings of the other or try to help each other, and they fall into stress and the easiest way out then is to separate.
You need to understand that love is love. It cannot exist one day and in the next moment disappear. If that happens, please understand that it was just an illusion; it is a sign that it was not true love.
Love is forever and it does not depend on anything, it just exists.
So when external challenges appear, exactly at that moment they have a chance to get closer together, they can meet God and make their hearts open more and support each other.
But people are acting in a very strange way, first they make promises in front of God (that is the real meaning of marriage and not some formal nonsense processes) but when God puts a relationship to test, they say goodbye to each other and think that all will be ok, but usually a person will meet the same situation again, maybe with another partner, but the situation will surely repeat..
Everything that happens in life of person is precisely for his/her development.
Of course all this doesn’t mean that if person meets one partner that they need to be together forever.. no. Of course, it is possible to separate, but each separation should be a celebration, it means that they decide in front of God that in that moment they will continue on different paths and that’s all. This separation should be done in good emotional state, with joy and in agreement. In that case they will receive blessings from God and they will have a possibility to create a new relationship without making the same mistakes.
When partners separate in a state of emotional crisis, with fears, blaming each other, with jealousy… they are not betraying the partner but betraying God.
When there are children in this situation this is the worst because children receive all of the impacts of emotional damage that partners usually create for each other.
When couples have already had children and they fight, this is the most egoistic action than a person can do... because this is a directly damaging children and it creates a deep program for them.
It’s like bringing up children with a purpose to transmit unhappiness to them.
It’s like putting one free bird inside a jail and have it as a decoration of the space.
The same way parents invite a soul of a child and then they make this soul suffer from the very beginning.
You need to understand, that life has many challenges, it cannot be stable forever. God teaches us through many different ways, and it is not possible to avoid suffering, it will happen in some moments, but you can always try to react differently. When you start feeling it, try to use your heart, if you cannot then try to transmit love for others, think of others… that’s the true meaning behind creating a family.
But when suffering comes and a person just thinks about him/herself… this only increases the pain.
Egoism is a vicious circle. So to create any relationship a person needs to be ready to give, this is Key.
